{"id":7783,"date":"2018-09-05T14:39:28","date_gmt":"2018-09-05T19:39:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/?p=7783"},"modified":"2022-08-23T17:56:27","modified_gmt":"2022-08-23T22:56:27","slug":"anger-during-meditation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/anger-during-meditation\/","title":{"rendered":"Anger During Meditation"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/videos-about-kundalini\/\">< Back to Videos and Articles on Kundalini and Dr. Morris's Improved KAP<\/a><\/p>\n<p>KAP Instructor Paul Densmore: A quick video describing why anger (that arises during KAP and\/or zen meditation) isn&#8217;t a hindrance to &#8220;spiritual work&#8221;, what it most likely is, and how to properly use it.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube-nocookie.com\/embed\/Oazz7O9_cHQ?rel=0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Paul&#8217;s next online KAP classes: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/register-for-kap-level-one-online-with-paul-densmore\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Level 1<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/register-for-kap-level-two-online-with-paul-densmore\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Level 2<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/register-for-kap-ce-online-with-paul-densmore\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Creativity Enhancement (CE)<\/a><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<h3 class=\"western\">Video Transcription:<\/h3>\n<p>All right, so I\u2019m going to try to do a series of these really short videos. A lot of them are going to be kind of health related things that I\u2019m incorporating into my life. This one is an emotional thing, and this is sort of the number one concern that I get from my students and it has to do with negative stuff that comes up during the practice of KAP, or even Zen, Zazen, meditation.<\/p>\n<p>Those two seem to be the two on-bringers of this storm, and it\u2019s: anger. Now it goes a little bit beyond anger because it\u2019s actually sort of repressed emotions.<\/p>\n<p>Number one: I am not a psychologist, so anything that I say in this video should be taken with a grain of salt. But, it is based on empirical stuff. So, you know, give it a shot if you want to, but get yourself checked out first as well.<\/p>\n<p>So anger, you know, people do KAP, or they do Zen meditation, or they do a combination of the two which I often recommend, and all of a sudden these repressed emotions come up and they\u2019re like, \u201call of a sudden, I\u2019m feeling pissed off, and I\u2019ve got all this rage. What\u2019s going on? How do I get rid of it? How do I get rid of it?\u201d And I get that over and over again, in fact I\u2019ll tell \u2014 you know, some students it\u2019ll be like one month they\u2019ll say, \u201cAw yeah, all of a sudden I got really pissed off.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m like, &#8220;Okay well, good, that\u2019s progress.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And then, things will get better and then the next month, \u201cI got really pissed off again.\u201d Like, well, yeah, go back and listen to what I said before.<\/p>\n<p>And the interesting thing is, it\u2019s all these repressed emotions, and we don\u2019t even think \u2014 especially people who are leading a so-called spiritual life \u201cOh you know, I have nothing to do, I have no anger.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bullshit. If somebody cuts you off in traffic, you&#8217;re gonna get ticked off but you\u2019re gonna go, \u201cOh no, no, no, no, I\u2019m too spiritual to\u2026\u201d And then you\u2019re going to choke it down and it\u2019s going to get \u2014 in time we don\u2019t even realize it a lot of times.<\/p>\n<p>And so it just sits there and festers, and then all of a sudden BOOM it gets brought up and it\u2019s even stronger than the little annoyance that it was before because it\u2019s become this big conglomerate of all the little times that you choked it down.<\/p>\n<p>But the funny thing is, other stuff comes up too. It\u2019s like lust: nobody gets pissed off when lust comes up because, especially if you\u2019re in a relationship, because your relationship is going to get 10 times better. Or even, if you\u2019re single, you\u2019ll just be a really mellow person walking around if you kind of catch my drift. But that\u2019s kind of the point.<\/p>\n<p>Everybody can find a use for lust and other things that come up. Even fear can point us towards things we need to deal with, but everybody thinks that anger is something has no use and it\u2019s absolute BS. To borrow my best Bruce Lee \u201cIt\u2019s a finger pointing towards the moon. Don\u2019t focus on the finger or you\u2019ll miss all that heavenly glory.\u201d That sort of thing.<\/p>\n<p>But it points towards something. So if all of this anger and rage, and you just want to go out and you want to beat the shit out of somebody, it\u2019s pointing towards something and just trying to get rid of the anger it\u2019s not going to do anything. That\u2019s why it\u2019s going to keep coming back because you\u2019re not paying attention to what it\u2019s pointing towards.<\/p>\n<p>So now, with that being said, two ways to deal with it. Number one: I call the F-bomb banishing. And this is to clear the space. Often, there is two ways to deal with: it\u2019\u2019s to get clear and see what\u2019s pointing at it, or to sit in and be present to the anger and then see what it wants, basically.<\/p>\n<p>So the F-bomb banishing: if you have access to a car, go drive out into the middle of the country, go walk out into the middle of the country where nobody\u2019s going to hear for miles around and just at the top of your lungs \u201cF#$@!%K!\u201d scream it as hard and loud as you can and then as soon as it\u2019s done, as soon as you get that last little ounce of breath out, just relax into the feeling and go \u201cOkay.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll feel this clear awareness, and then go \u201cOkay, now, what\u2019s the real issue here now that I\u2019ve got the anger out of the way.\u201d And, nine times out of ten, you\u2019ll be clued in, like oh hey it\u2019s this over here. Maybe it\u2019ll be some repressed memory, maybe it\u2019ll be \u2014 it could be a hundred things. Something that you\u2019re going through but you\u2019re not really dealing with it, etc., etc., etc.<\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t give you specifics because we\u2019re all different and we\u2019re all going through different things.<\/p>\n<p>The next thing we\u2019ll have two different approaches. That was clearing away, this is going to be actually sitting in it and being present with it. Now, that doesn\u2019t mean \u2014 that doesn\u2019t give you a license to do whatever you want. If I say, be present to your anger, that doesn\u2019t mean go beat the shit out of somebody and be present while you\u2019re beating the crap out of them.<\/p>\n<p>A: that will probably land you in jail.<\/p>\n<p>And B: it will make you feel terrible when it\u2019s all done. And there are other reasons as well but those are the two ones that you\u2019ll probably be more apt to experience. So, sit with your anger. And I mean sit. Again if you have to, drive out to the country, but by the time you drive out to the country, it will probably be gone.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll have this nice scenery&#8230;and you don\u2019t wanna do that because that\u2019s just letting you off the hook. And it\u2019s not doing you any good, really. Sit with your anger. Go into the bathroom. Go into a closet if you have to, and sit there and be present to the anger and start \u2014 so become the anger. Let it envelop you. Realize: \u201cI, right now, I am experiencing this\u201d. And then start asking it questions.<\/p>\n<p>What are you pointing at?<\/p>\n<p>What am I not dealing with?<\/p>\n<p>What have I repressed?<\/p>\n<p>Etc., etc., etc.<\/p>\n<p>And a lot of times, that will get you: all of a sudden you\u2019ll have this BING, this moment of clarity, this insight and you\u2019ll figure out what it is that you really need to deal with. Not just get rid of the anger, the anger is there pointing at something. What is it pointing at?<\/p>\n<p>The next one is if that sort of digital, auditory thing doesn&#8217;t work, getting kinesthetic works a lot of times so get out a pen and a piece of paper and start writing down as your anger, you can ask it a question:<\/p>\n<p>Again, what are you pointing at?<\/p>\n<p>What are you trying to tell me here?<\/p>\n<p>And then start writing down whatever just, free association, whatever pops into your mind. It doesn\u2019t matter what it is just write it down and get it out, get it out, get it out.<\/p>\n<p>Or write as your anger, as if you\u2019re playing a character. If you do a lot of fiction writing or whatever this should be easy for you and will actually help you in your other stuff and, a lot of times it\u2019s something that you\u2019re not dealing with or something that you\u2019re not doing, your not living up to your potential or something etc.<\/p>\n<p>So many people, they don\u2019t live up to their potential, they\u2019re not doing the thing that they feel that they really need to do for whatever reason and it ticks them off.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s the classic sort of drunken father who works the crappy job. You know, the sitcom father, basically, the archetype and that\u2019s a very real thing. If you\u2019re not doing what you\u2019re supposed to be doing of course you\u2019re going to get ticked off. All right.<\/p>\n<p>All right and then the other approach is a morning page. So you\u2019ve probably heard of morning pages especially if you\u2019re in the creative work. Morning pages are great, I recommend them for pretty much anything because \u2014 I use them on the weekend basically, or on the holidays because I use five-minute journal every morning and every night, but I don\u2019t have a whole lot of time in the morning because I get up, I take my daughter to school, and I like my sleep as well.<\/p>\n<p>I have a whole lot of stuff to get done, and then I sleep, and then I get up and start doing stuff again. So I usually use it on the weekend, but I still use it. And so it\u2019s just where you take a sheet of paper, you can get the morning page journal if you want to and I only use one page even though she recommends using five because I don\u2019t have that much time usually, and you just start writing whatever.<\/p>\n<p>You just clear out the monkey mind. And you can even ask yourself questions, like if you\u2019re blocked creatively you can ask \u201cWell what am I supposed to \u2014 what idea am I supposed to be approaching,\u201d or whatever or try to get in then you basically ask the question, or you can actually write out the question and then you just start free associating and writing and just free-writing basically.<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s it. Those three things will usually have you done. Talking. Writing. Doing the F-bomb banishing. Those are the three best pieces of advice that I can give you because, again, the anger is pointing at something. It\u2019s the pain that \u2014 the pain is not the issue. The issue is whatever is causing the pain. So deal with the issue. All right? And that\u2019s my quick little spiel for today. Thank you very much.<\/p>\n<p><em>\u2014 <\/em><em>Transcription by Spencer Stevens<\/em><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/videos-about-kundalini\/\">Back to articles and videos about kundalini<\/a><\/p>\n<p><!-- https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/tube\/Anger_During_Meditation_480w.png --><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>< Back to Videos and Articles on Kundalini and Dr. Morris's Improved KAP KAP Instructor Paul Densmore: A quick video &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/anger-during-meditation\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Anger During Meditation<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[5,16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7783","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-kundalini-videos","category-paul-densmore"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7783","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7783"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7783\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9218,"href":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7783\/revisions\/9218"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7783"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7783"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kundaliniawakeningprocess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7783"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}